Midlife Crisis and Menopause
Read on to explore the link between mid life and the menopause.
Menopause is a transition like puberty with hormone levels fluctuating and conditional responses from people in our past affecting how we feel about getting older. We could be holding onto subconscious beliefs from childhood that encourage us to make conditional responses towards our children, partner or ourselves, creating negative feelings and contributing to anxiety.
Examples of conditional responses:
- Snapping at children or partner
- Harmful internal talk
- Destructive behaviour
- Self sabotage
- Hyper productivity
- Body shaming
- Isolation
- Feeling powerless
- Incessant complaining/ criticising
- Catastrophising
We can change these by healing ourselves and making simple changes to how we react to things.
Here are some tips on how to flip the narrative :
- Talk about how you feel to others
- Journaling can help – by writing it all down it’s out of your head.
- Join local groups online or in person to meet likeminded people
- Take an active interest in wellness and see how you can feel better
- Exercise- any will do but some good ones are : yoga, swim, walk, seated exercise classes.
- Meditation- it’s easier than you think use apps such as calm or headspace for guided meditation or YouTube
- Read a book or even better join / start a book club.
- Book some time to relax – a Massage or Reiki healing
- Book some hypnotherapy sessions
- Find new hobbies
- Gardening – maybe join a local group
- Painting
- Creative writing
- Charity work
- Coffee mornings
- Learn a new sport
- Learn a new language
- Learn to play an instrument
- Reignite sex life
- Attend menopause discussions (at the powder room or online)
It’s called “THE CHANGE” for a reason!
So this rollercoaster into midlife is hard work sometimes and while topping up your hormones with HRT will help considerably. You need to find a path that suits you and make some changes to your lifestyle.
We understand this may seem overwhelming and you may not know where to start – that’s where we come in !
We will listen and make sense of all the things that are making you feel below par right now to create a bespoke plan to get you through.
It’s important that you find meaning and purpose as you enter the next chapter of your wonderful life. Some people seek more adventure whist others seek peace and security.
Some want more money whereas others steer towards a less materialistic world and embrace a more spiritual journey.
Whatever you’re craving make sure you are around the right people to make you feel a part of something great and to give you a sense of belonging. Rather than people who are negative and hinder your goals.
In our 20’s and 30’s oestrogen gives us the ability to see things through rose tinted glasses to protect us from the reality of childhood. When we get older our oestrogen levels drop and we see things for what they are – We may need help navigating this so we don’t become overwhelmed or disheartened.
We have two types of stress :
Stress type 1 – Happening now – deadlines, traffic etc
Stress type 2 – Past stress – hidden/ blocked out childhood trauma or negative influences from past relationships
When we replace the negative programming with positive – our brains autonomic nervous system will react and make us feel lighter, more confident and hopeful for the future. The stress fades away or we change the way we deal with it. We can learn to manage our stress and not get stuck in the stress cycle which is exhausting as I’m sure you’ll agree.
Specific treatments that will deal with the symptoms these issues bring and help you feel better include :
Reiki
Hypnotherapy
Reflexology
Aromatherapy massage
If you are looking for a full plan of action to guide you through your menopause journey check out our menopause program and get in touch to discuss how to get started.